I thought I would take a trip down memory lane and tell a tale or two about the awesome tea ladies who helped keep the morale alive and kicking in the office…
As I was waiting with my mum on Monday morning at the hospital, she said “gee, it would be good if the tea trolley appeared around about now.” I nodded my head in agreement and said I don’t think they do this in this part of the hospital anymore.
However, it did get me thinking about the past conversations I have had with many of my colleagues, family and friends regarding our earliest days at work and the awesome tea trolley ladies we had back then. There is much to be said regarding having a decent tea or coffee break once or twice during the work day. All too often we are head down and lose track of how we can be more kind to ourselves and give our poor tired brain a break.
During my time at the State Energy Commission of Western Australia (SECWA), the canteen near the top of the building was still in place and the tea trolley turned up on your floor at both morning and afternoon teatime. This was at a time when moving from one’s desk was not an option, except to get a cup of tea or coffee at the set breaks, and of course at lunch time. Many younger readers would be puzzled by this: talking to each other was a no no, working in teams – what was that? Sure you might be in a work team (a section within the organisation), but it wasn’t a true integrated team where you could inspire each other to great outcomes. You also had to be quiet. Permission was even needed to go to the toilet, unless you worked in areas where people moved in and out all the time, to undertake tasks in other parts of the organisation.
The tea trolley ladies were fabulous. When they arrived, you would grab you tea or coffee in shifts. It was like standing around the water cooler for a minute or two, where people would gather around the tea trolley and catch up. Different conversations would be the order of the day regarding whatever the latest news was and so on. Then, when your coworkers walked away, you could have a word or two with the tea ladies. The ladies were never grumpy. They always had a smile or two. They were a reliable source of information and new exactly what was going on around the place. It was almost like an intranet, but in human form 😂 Once the shifts were finished, the trolley would be left for half an hour or so and you could refill or return your empty cup, placing it underneath the trolley.
I remember my very first day working at SECWA. The morning tea trolley arrived. After a few minutes I went up to the trolley. I grabbed a cup, filled to with tea and then somehow managed to dunk my tie in it not once, but three times, after making a new cup each time 🤣 It was not my greatest workplace moment, but my work colleagues certainly remembered it for quite some time. However, the most awesome outcome was a conversation soon thereafter with my wife to be (Although, she laughed at me at the time).
These days, depending where you are, there are coffee vans that visit, you can pop out to the local cafe or stock up the workplace kitchen with as many varieties of tea that you like. And then you have that wonderful tea delivery experience in India (Chai Point). We also now have so many avid connoisseurs of High Tea. There is even a company where I live (High Tea In A Box) that will organise a high tea for you at home where the humble tea trolley finds itself resurrected once more. If you want to see some delightful reflections on the pleasures of tea drinking, visit childgirlwoman and the post: Tea Time – Romancing the Brew.
I always had a good relationship with the tea ladies. I recall for a number of years afterwards, they would always make me a cup of tea first up. Maybe it was their way of helping me to avoid a repeat of that first day! I’m only kidding, but they did look after me.
Lock Down Once Again!
So, here I am once again, like many others across the planet, in another lockdown. The irony is we had only several days ago moved to Phase 5 – complete freedom with only the opening of Australia’s borders (still a long way off in any case). What started out as wearing masks on Sunday turned into a snap, hard, lock down on Monday. The Delta Variant (DV) has managed to emerge in most Australian states very quickly, which is no different to its modus operandi around the world. In Western Australia (Perth and Peel Regions) we have been lucky to come through two earlier lockdowns this year without any impact. However, this time it is different. DV is passed with only the most fleeting of contacts. You can be well outside the required social distances and become infected. It is like we have gone back 12 months in time. The contact tracers and testing laboratories need the time that the lock down provides, in an effort to isolate and stamp DV out each time it emerges. It takes large amounts of resourcing and of course we can do that here (for now). Anyway, one hour at a time, half a day at a time, one day at a time we go. As Willedare (who is an awesome musical talent) says “breathe in breathe out”…
Watching Big Shot the previous Sunday, former NCAA Division I champion basketball coach Marvyn Korn (John Stamos) has these very words said to him by a good friend who is also a chief basketball scout: “Everybody loves a good comeback.”
For anyone who has caught up with this show, the feelgood story on Disney+ is about basketball’s most successful college coach of all time. At the start, we see Marvyn have a melt down during a baskeball game. He involved throwing a chair at the referee and, as you can imagine, he was subsequently banned from the sport. The other consequence of his explosive behaviour was he couldn’t find a coaching job, until his agent found him the head coaching job at a private all girls school far from “home.”
At his new place of employment, we get to see who Marvyn really is. Or, perhaps more to the point, through his interactions with his young athletes and assistant coach, he begins to give himself permission to let his inner being shine through. Because of the change that starts to occur, along with the humanising of the “demonic” coach, Marvyn suddenly finds himself in demand as the legendary coach once more.
When it all boils down, a comeback is tantamount to forgiveness, or is it? I think this is one of the big changes we have seen in recent times: the lack of forgiveness. People are being torched unnecessarily, unfairly and without good reason. But, in the interests of this post, I will park this particular point for now.
I can honestly say though, throughout my career, I have had numerous setbacks and the comebacks to match. That’s how it is in the political arena: you either fit in or you don’t, and rarely is it something in between (see my post Rooster Today, Feather Duster Tomorrow).
So how do you plan for a good comeback?
When it is all said and done, there are a number of considerations when planning an effective comeback:
I know this is easy to say when your world is falling apart. However, being calm is essential at a time like this. This is not the time to burn bridges, although you might find yourself singeing them a tiny bit. Unlike Marvyn, I have never exploded, thrown a chair or abused anyone. However, when my number was up, I calmly and rationally discussed what I needed to do to close matters out and moved on. This is the same as being in the zone, or compartmentalising your thoughts and feelings. The name of the game is being professional i.e. being calm. If you want some further tips on staying calm, Linda at Spiritual Fantasia in her post (and blog) Emotional Turmoil: Navigate Rough Waters lists some simple tips on dealing with our emotional landscape.
Take Time Out
Marvyn’s managment agent was right. Marvyn needed to do “penance,” regarding his actions. Time out takes on a variety of different forms. It can be anything from reconnecting at home through to that long promised vacation. For others, it means moving to somewhere else and working in the same industry or even another industry altogether. Some even become volunteers.
As a minimum, the time out taken should be a minimum of three months. However, 6 – 12 months may have a more healing effect. There are those I know who have taken the best part of five years to make their comeback, during which time, they made their mark somewhere else.
I won’t sugarcoat what I am about to say next. Some of us have “time out” enforced on us. Yes, I have colleagues who have been dismissed or served jail time for what they have done. Of course, this means they have plenty of time to reflect on why they have ended up where they are in life. Once time is served, with their rehabilitation and/or penance is complete, they have generally been able to find themselves gainfully employed once more.
To stop the setback you experience going around in your head forever in a day, you need to do two things: see to your health and learn from your bruising past experience.
When it comes to your health, more often than not, we are talking about your mental health here. Everyone is different regarding their experience when it comes to mental health. The trick is to stop finding a way to help you stop the spiral. Caz, a former nurse has something to say about this at her blog: MentalHealth360. See 7 quick and easy tips to control your anger.
Taking time out to learn from this very bruising experience is essential for you to move forward. Often, there is not much you have done wrong and so it takes time to reconcile being moved on against your core being. However, you need to do the self analysis.
Once you are settled in your own mind, then it is time to plan your comeback. The plan shouldn’t be too complicated. As a suggestion, your plan can consist of the following, with milestones for each action:
- Start eating better. There are much more gifted writers out there than me on how to do this. Take a look at Ang’s blog Lose Weight With Ang and see how you can start to get your head around how to better sustain yourself;
- Undertake some form of exercise and/or look into how you can revisit your spiritual well being. Cindy with her blog Unique Times not only has great advice and videos on how to build up a gentle fitness regime, but advice on how to build up your spiritual well being as well;
- Engage with friends and family. When was the last time you really connected with those closest to you? I know this my seem harder that it is, but just start a conversation anywhere and work your way into what is on your mind;
- Weigh up your future e.g. ask yourself: do I want to get back into the industry?, or do I want to work for myself?, or do I want to do something completely different? Micah of Markus & Micah has some thoughts on a “holiday life or how to create the life you love;”
- List potential stakeholders that will be a form part of your future. In other words, draw up a list of those people or organisations that wil help you reconnect.
Let Key People Know You Are Back!
There you are. You have served your time, are feeling refreshed and have your plan of attack ready to go. So what do you do next? Simply really. Reach out and let the key stakeholders in your life know that your are back and rearing to go. This may be your professional association, former work colleagues, your coach or mentor or friends and relatives. I understand that this is not easy, but once you do it, you will feel much better for it and have great peace of mind.
A Comeback Story
On one particular occasion my future as a CEO was in the balance. I had been through a turbulent eight months. Over the course of the day in question, the mediator was painting an unpleasant picture regarding what was turning out to be my day of reckoning. Although, I knew the numbers were still with me, by the end of that day (and after discussing the situation at length with Linda), I decided that it was time to move on. So I met with the powers that be and announced my decision. I calmly thanked them for the opportunity that they had provided to me in leading the organisation, however in the interests of all, it was time for me to go. In short, I fell on my sword. The majority though were not happy with my decision, but they understood. My staff, in the main, were, distraught. The bottom line, I wasn’t prepared to go through a further six months of non ending, character assassination that would eventually de-stable the organisation. My family certainly didn’t need all the nonsense that comes with this either.
From when I made my announcement, it took me a month to close things out with the organisation and a further month to sort matters out with my family. I then took three months out to contemplate my navel and stop blaming myself for what happened. My family was very patient during this time. Eventually, I improved my diet and began to get fit. At the end of three months, I had a temporary job offer come thorugh as a CEO, which I accepted, and in turn was accepted very warmly by that organisation. By the end of my four month contract, I had a firm plan in place. I then let all and sundry know I was around. A range of opportunities presented not long afterwards.
To this day, I have not had to advertise my availability. Word of mouth has been sufficient. However, I know this approach is not the best one for most people. There is no doubt in today’s world, an online presence is essential. Kally at MiddleMe has some very interesting things to say about marketing yourself here and in her post 8 Tips for Reentering the Workforce After a Long Absence, has fabulous pointers on how to pull it all together and find that meaningful job.
A Different Kind of Comeback
I remember as the relieving CEO at the Shire of Sandstone five years ago, I had been recalled there no less than three times during the year, for one reason or another. Anyway, on the last occasion, towards the end of my last tenure there, I had organised an opening night for an art exhibition over the long weekend. It was a very successful evening. When it came to the speeches, I was first cab of the rank. During my speech, I commented “This year, I feel like I have had more comebacks than Elvis.” To which those in the room replied “no, offence, Sean, but we hope we don’t have to see you again anytime soon.” And we all had a good laugh about that. When a person or an organisation asks you back time and again, you know you must be doing something right. In particular, at Sandstone, they told me I had a very calming presence and this had allowed the community to breathe and re-establish its own peace of mind 😊
What’s your comeback story? Please feel free to comment below!
Or how crises and catastrophes are the making of us in challenging times and the importance of why we (both you and me) need to show leadership in our communities from the ground up…
As I was sitting in the reception room of our dentist last weekend, an interview with Hugh MacKay was unfolding on the tv in front of me. Hugh is Australia’s foremost social researcher, so I tuned into the interview straight away. He is always worth listening to.
Hugh was discussing his new book The Kindness Revolution. He said:
Revolutions never start at the top. If we dare to dream of a more loving country – kinder, more compassionate, more cooperative, more respectful, more inclusive, more egalitarian, more harmonious, less cynical – there’s only one way to start turning that dream into a reality: each of us must live as if this is already that country.
The inspiration for his book was the state of Australia’s mental and emotional well being and the state of the economy after the ravages of the 2020 Australian bushfires followed by the onset of the pandemic. Hugh found himself (like many of us I suspect) reflecting on the challenges faced during this time and asked three questions that I know many of us have asked around the globe, including:
- What really matters to me?
- Am I living the kind of life I want?
- What sort of society do I want us to become?
Although his book is written regarding the Australian context, he urges all of us not to let these questions go, and points to our inspiring displays of kindness and consideration, our personal sacrifices for the common good and our heightened appreciation of the value of local neighbourhoods and communities during this time. He asks a very big question in turn: ‘Could we become renowned as a loving country, rather than simply a “lucky” one?’
In a recent interview in the Australian, Hugh points out:
By kindness I mean compassion, tolerance, respect, sensitivity towards other people. And the radical version is absolutely non-discriminatory; the revolution is when you are kind not just to your nice neighbour, but to the ones you don’t know or don’t like much. The pandemic has shown us we are actually quite good at this. We are a social species that can only survive by creating relatively harmonious communities, and the only rational response to that is to say, well, kindness had better be our default position.
Hugh mentions in a podcast on his book (Hugh Mackay’s simple ways to be kinder everyday) it became evident to him that there is a movement out there regarding “The New Normal.” People are categorically saying that they do not want, post pandemic, to slip back into a stressful, over committed and overwhelming life. This made him pursue the question “what does it mean to be normal?” The answer: being kind and respectful.
To emphasize his point he quotes Abraham Lincoln: The Better Angels of Our Nature. Hugh goes on to explore that being kind is the only trait that we have as a socially connected species that doesn’t require emotion. We are a socially connected species and we are hardwired towards cooperative interactions. He argues implementing kindness is not the responsibility of governments, but the responsibility of the individual. In order for us to be kind each day, he sets out his four step CARE plan:
When I went through Hugh’s 4 Step Plan, I found myself starting to feel at ease. There seems to a very familiar aspect to it. I connect by smiling and saying hello. It’s challenging at times to do this, in certain settings, but much easier when it is in your local neighbourhood. I do accept people for who they are. I take them as I find them. If you ask me for help, regardless of who you are, I will help out as best I can. With respect, as Hugh strongly points out (and many other insightful minds out there), the virus doesn’t discriminate – it attacks all humans – it doesn’t care who you are or where you come from. I don’t know If I have always been good at engagement, but I give it a good go. Yes, I do listen. Yes, I have joined and done many community things over the years. I have been a netball coach and umpire, women’s hockey coach, played cricket and hockey, participated in drug and alcohol health initiatives, breathed life into community groups that were dwindling away and fought the good fight on making communities a better place to live.
I have Hugh’s book and I have started a deeper dive into the Kindess Revolution. Already I have digested what it means to be resilient…
From my perspective, I already live how I want things to be, with kindness. I may be grumpy day in and day out, but I am a firm believer that us and the world are going to be just fine. We need to sharpen our game plan, absolutely, and get on with how the world (not just our own backyard) can be a better place. Only we, together, can do that!
Podcasts can be found here:
If you have time, watch an interview with Hugh at your leisure
https://youtu.be/HPGkVH92Of0 (60 mins)
This is the first post in an ongoing series that will look at key leaders throughout Time and their enduring legacy, including key attributes applicable to leaders today
I am a great believer that leaders are made, not born. That being said, there is much in the way of literature out there regarding how leaders come to be. Undertake any literature review on the subject and you will find there is a position regarding how leaders are made (and how it is done), or that leaders are born (as if by some divine right!) or perhaps, you will find there is even something in between.
In short, one thing is certain and that is leaders rise to the occasion. However, in this context, leaders are either good or bad, and again, perhaps even something in between.
Leadership is simple, yet complex and thus challenging. The list of leaders that have been tested time and time again is extensive. Just ask: Rameses II, Alexander the Great, Tang Taizong, Caesar, Charlemagne, Elizabeth I, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Ulysses S Grant, Queen Victoria, Ghandi, Churchill, Elizabeth II, Nelson Mandela, Peter Drucker, Bill Gates.
Today, I thought I might focus on, perhaps my all time favourite leader, the Egyptian Pharaoh – Rameses II (1292-1186 BCE) or as he was also known: Rameses the Great and ‘Keeper of Harmony and Balance’(Gebril, 2019; Mark, 2009).
Rameses caught my attention as a six year old boy when I received a book from my dad on Ancient Egypt that had magnificent pictures in it regarding the fabulous temple complex he built at Abu Simbel. Kristin Baird Rattini (2019) describes Abu Simbel as follows: “At its entrance, four 60-plus-foot-tall seated statues of him serve as sentries. Dedicated to the sun gods, the temple extends 185 feet into its cliff via a series of three towering halls. Scenes depict Ramses II at the Battle of Kadesh as well as the pharaoh and his principal wife, Nefertari, making offerings to the sun gods.” It is also interesting to note that Ramses also built a second, smaller temple nearby for Queen Nefertari.
In her book, A Thousand Miles up the Nile (Edwards, 1891), Amelia B Edwards said of Rameses: He was born to greatness; he achieved greatness; and he had borrowed greatness thrust upon him. Amelia certainly knew how to turn a phrase. If you ever get the chance to read her book, you can feel the romantic description used to pull you back in time to the ‘Land of Pharaohs.’ And yet, underneath it all, we know that Rameses family had very humble origins (Karima, 2016). His grandfather, Rameses I through military prowess, elevated their commoner family to the ranks of royalty (Rattini, 2019).
Rameses was just 24 when he ascended the throne of Egypt (Prahl, 2019). He then went on to rule for a further 66 years, in what is referred to as a Golden Age of Ancient Egypt. It is interesting to note, that his father Seti 1, made Rameses a general at the age of ten (Valjak, 2018) and prince regent at the age of 14 (2007 Wikipedia Schools Selection, 2007). So, by the time he became Pharoah, he had ten years under his belt regarding kingship and war.
Pharaohs, as a rule, did not acknowledge their children, let alone the capabilities they may have possessed. At the very most, they might acknowledge the crown prince, perhaps (Karima, 2016). Wente, Baines and Dorman (2021) comment that for the first time in more than a millennium, Rameses as Pharaoh had his princes prominently represented on monuments. It is said Rameses sired some 100 children or more (some say tas many as up to 170 offspring!). Of his children, he acknowledged at least 30 princes and 30 princesses publicly (Theban Mapping Project, 2021). During his long life he trained at least 12 sons to be crown prince, as most of his children died before he died (PBS, 2006). Of the primary princes from his two queens, he treated them with equal regard and respect (Mark, 2009). So, he was seen by the people as humane by going against custom and was generally well liked (Hays, 2018).
Rameses did fight in many successful wars, but had one major blemish, the battle of Kadesh against the Hittites (Geni, 2019). However, after this inconclusive battle and a further series of successful wars, he signed the Eternal Peace Treaty with the Hittites. So, by the time he was in his 40’s, he began to rule over a peaceful and successful kingdom right through until the end of his days.
When he died in his early 90’s, his subjects were very distraught. Most people did not live beyond the age of 40 at that time. So, it was quite likely that most of his subjects, at his passing, had been born during his reign (PBS, 2006).
There are those who contend that Rameses was neither great nor was he a good general. Dailymi (2021) cites some Egyptologists (William Hayes, Kenneth A Kitchen – see further comments below) who considered him a despot (Dailymi also mentions those who considered him as far sighted and master diplomat – H Schlogl, Nicolas Grimal). Others mention that he was an apparent megalomaniac (Real Life Villains Wiki, 2021; Putthoff, 2020 pp39 – 47). Both Amelia B Edwards and Kenneth Kitchen (noted egyptologist and Rameses II specialist) mention Rameses may have been a despot or megalomaniac, but we must put this into the context of the societal norms at the time i.e. we cannot judge him by today’s standards. He was no better or worse than any other ruler throughout that part of the world (Dunn, 2021). John Ray comments when Rameses successor came to the throne and undertook an audit of imperial spending “one gains the impression that the excesses of the previous reign had left the throne close to bankruptcy (Ray, 2017).”
Personally, I don’t share the negative points of view because, as any leader knows, to achieve what Rameses did as the ruler of Egypt he had to possess some amazing leadership abilities. Resting on one’s laurels, being vindictive and only talking about oneself does not lead to a successful kingdom. Sure, it might survive, but such a kingdom would not have prospered the way Egypt did at that time. Dorman and Faulkner (2021) postulate: “Ramses II must have been a good soldier, despite the fiasco of Kadesh, or else he would not have been able to penetrate so far into the Hittite empire as he did in the following years; he appears to have been a competent administrator, since the country was prosperous, and he was certainly a popular king. Some of his fame, however, must surely be put down to his flair for publicity: his name and the record of his feats on the field of battle were found everywhere in Egypt and Nubia.”
Of course, what happens afterwards may be an issue. A war within the family broke out ten years after the passing of Rameses (Karima, 2016). Although Egypt remained an ongoing influence in the region (Dorman and Faulkner, 2021) the “New Kingdom” collapsed after the reign of Smendes nearly 150 years later (Mark, 2016). However, when it is all said and done, Rameses legacy is still felt today (Sandvick, Krebsbach and Lambrecht, 2018).
Three Key Leadership Traits
So, when we look at the achievements of Rameses, there are three key leadership attributes that he possessed:
- Diplomacy. He understood the importance of gaining financial and security interests by means other than war.
- Public relations. He understood that a positive message would make the biggest difference to his people.
- Commitment to great architecture and Infrastructure. He had a grand vision and understood economic security.
After 14 years of conflict, the Eternal Peace Treaty (also known as the Silver Treaty) between Egypt and the Hittites was signed by Ramses and the Hittite King: Hattusili III. It would also seem that Hattusili’s wife, Queen Puduhepa was part of the diplomatic resolution as her seal is found on the treaty (Silver, 2010). A copy of the clay tablets setting out the treaty are prominently displayed above the entrance to to United Nations Security Council Chamber in New York (Andrews, 2020). The Eternal treaty is the earliest known peace accord whose text has survived in key monuments in both Egypt and Ancient Anatolia (Turkey). Among the treaty’s articles, both sides agreed to extradite refugees and not exact retribution after their return. Further, they agreed to aid one another if attacked by foreign or domestic enemies (Rattini, 2019). In addition to the treaty, Rameses also married not one, but two Hittite princesses (at different times). It’s interesting to note that Puduhepa in due course did have something to say to her “brother” about such arrangements (Silver, 2010).
The lesson from Rameses regarding diplomacy is this: there are times as a leader when you need to draw a line in the sand, take a deep breath and look at how you can go forward, together, instead of pursuing ongoing conflict that is destructive. Whichever way you look at it, both kings were magnanimous. In later correspondence, Nefertari in a letter to Puduhepa referred to both kings as brothers (Silver, 2010). Rameses understood that he needed access to the Hittite controlled ports and the countries that bordered Hittite territory. Hattusili certainly needed an ally to discourage potential usurpers at home in order to secure a lasting peace for posterity (Wikja.org, 2021). By all accounts both rulers went on to have a good relationship. I guess that is the ultimate in being professional: rise above your personal interests.
The Master of Spin
Rameses, was without a doubt a master spin doctor. However, as all good leaders know, to seal the deal, to inspire and lead, you need to talk it up. The battle of Kadesh was inconclusive. Neither the Egyptians nor the Hittites won. What we find regarding the outcome of this battle is that Rameses was quick to return home and publish far and wide that Kadesh was a successful campaign and that he, single handedly, won the day. Remarkably, the Hittite king used the same strategy with his people (Rattini, 2019).
One of Ramses offspring, Prince Khaemwaset truly stands apart, and in particular how he helped his father on the public relations front. Khaemwaset held the prestigious post of high priest of Ptah, the patron god of Memphis. Bas-reliefs depict him in his important duty of tending the tomb of Ptah’s sacred Apis bulls in the underground complex known as the Serapeum (Rattini, 2019).
Khaemwaset is also considered one of the first known archaeologists. He was captivated by the thousand-year-old landmarks from the Old Kingdom that surrounded him in Memphis. He inspected and restored several temples and pyramids. At each restoration, he inscribed the names and titles of the building’s original “owners,” as well as his and his father’s names. A millennium after his death, he was still being revered as a scholar and featured in a series of stories about his accomplishments (Rattini, 2019).
The Importance of Infrastructure
Rameses, like any good leader, understood that great architecture and infrastructure are needed to keep the people focussed, make life easier for them (both socially and at work) and to also keep them gainfully employed. We know that previous pharaohs had built impressive pyramids and temples. However under the reign of Rameses, it is said, he turned Egypt into an immense building site, from the Mediterranean Sea all the way to Nubia (Deprez, 2021). Much of his construction work was in relation to his image or family. Many historians consider his reign the pinnacle of Egyptian art and culture and the famous Tomb of Nefertari with its wall paintings is cited as clear evidence of the truth of this claim. Nefertari was Ramesses’ first wife and his favourite queen (Mark, 2009).
In today’s world, we find it difficult to understand such an approach, in fact some would say Rameses showed narcissistic tendencies. However, we need to understand Egyptian society at the time: the Pharaoh was divine – a link between the gods and the common people (Williams, 2019: Putthoff, 2020 pp39 – 47)). Pharaonic divinity has always intrigued me. It was never questioned by the populace (despite revolts from time to time). State based religion was important, as it was central to their way of life. Ask any cat that lived in Ancient Egypt.
Ancient Egyptians actually enjoyed life (Mark, 2016) and are not the sombre, spooky people often portrayed in movies and TV shows. They were a colourful people (Ancient Egypt for Kids, 2021). Because they enjoyed life so much, they wanted to make sure they could transition to the afterlife and enjoy it just as much there on the ancestral plane. In addition to such divineship, Ancient Egypt was for all intents and purposes, egalitarian (equal under the law). In particular, Egyptian women had great freedom and enjoyed equality in many aspects re owning land, were able to divorce, were generally paid the same as men for work undertaken outside the home (Andrews, 2020). Nefertari, as Rameses first queen, was revered as an exceptional woman. She played an important role in state and religious affairs. Loved by her people, she was called “mistress of two lands,” a title normally reserved for the king, the “lord of two lands” (Canadian Museum of History, 2021).
Some Final Thoughts
The Eternal Peace Treaty is on display for all to see at the United Nations, above the entrance to the Security Council. The contents of the treaty set out how both kingdoms will be of benefit to each other. The ensuing peace the Treaty provided led to great prosperity and a much better way of life. However, it does make me wonder why some of the current members of the Security Council in today’s world only pay lip service to the ideals of such a revered Treaty?
Rameses II stood bold and proud. He respected his family and involved them in much of what he had to do. He led his people in an open manner and communicated with them through his great structural works. He was considered accessible like none other before him. From a young age his father (Seti I) instilled in him what it meant to be responsible for those around him. He achieved his aim of securing Egypt’s borders, so that for much of his reign, the nation lived in peace, harmony and prosperity.
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It seems all through my working life, I have had to tell CEOs how it is…
As some of you would be aware, I have spent a reasonable amount of time as a CEO. So, I do have some insight here regarding what I am about to say next.
The bottomline: you should always tell your CEO or leader how it is, but in a constructive manner. However, that is not the purpose of my post today (but, this is something you need to ruminate on 🤔)
These days as a consultant, as it was for me when I was a humble employee, I have/had to tell CEOs how it is.
The hardest thing to tell them though is this: “no I cannot do that for you, as you are the only one, the only person who can undertake that particular task.”
There are certain tasks that only the CEO, the chairperson, the leader, director, team manager and so on can do, because it is to do with their experience, their perspective. Although you may assist them through understanding them and teasing out what is inside their heads, ultimately, you do not know their true underlying sense of being, despite appreciating the type of person they are, including the values and ethics they have and so on.
So, how do I let them down gently? Firstly, in an even handed way (I have reviewed this matter for you, however, I need to let you know…). Secondly, with the facts (As you know, you have been involved with this matter from day one, whereas there are some matters I have not been exposed to, including…) and lastly with sound reasoning (this is an issue that only you can respond to as you are the one that has the required insights the others need to know..). Your explanation doesn’t have to be overly long, but it does need to be balanced (perhaps these are some of the pros and cons that you need to consider…) and in a cooperative tone (I am happy to assist you further where I can). They may not appreciate what you say at the time, but over the long haul, you are the one they will trust when the chips are down.
CEOs Are Human Too…
Yes, I am having one of those days…
Our daughter has been at her grandmother’s for the last month preparing the final touches to the props she has developed for the movie she is working on, which starts filming at the end of May. She is the head of production on Before Dawn, and her props, including human bodies and body parts are more than realistic!
This morning she popped home to sort out some things. As we were sitting at the table having breakfast, she said “what is happening beard man?” I responded “I know I shouldn’t be saying this to one of my offspring, but a distinct (complete) lack of interest on my part.”
Various thoughts were running through my head as I was saying this regarding the challenge of being a role model in one’s family 24/7: dad of the year – nope, one time inspiring leader of organisations – nope, slayer of dragons and oppressors – definitely a nope.
We all have those blah days, and I am having one today, as I have been awake since 2AM.
The reality is, just being able to talk to my eldest child this morning, who is an awesome adult in her own right, is a very big tick and one I cherish. In today’s world, and for the first part of our lives, we spend so much time chasing Moby Dick, or the unattainable goal, we forget what life is really all about. Taking time out to actually commune with those closest to us (COVID aside) is beyond important. Learning this later on in life is not necessarily too late, but it is food for thought as to when we should focus on the strength of our connections regarding those around us.
The other awesome aspect in my life is my wife Linda: the only person who well and truly puts up with whatever crazy idea or behaviour that is running though my head at the time. If you can imagine a welcoming bubbly glass of champagne in a party setting, that’s her. Every single time she says: “it’s always a good idea to take time out.”
So, a very important aspect in all this then, is giving myself permission to feel a distinct lack of interest and then get over it, because I know I will.
A fabulous post on the blah and what is happening can be found at the Mental Health 360 blog: A name for the blah we’ve all been feeling lately? Caz, is awesome in how she tackles this subject. Take a peek, and banish the blah’s away (blasé – sorry, I couldn’t help myself 🤣). If you know someone who needs to make sense of the blah, then give them the link to the post by Caz as well.
The Rest Is Silence – Lest We Forget
On 19 November 1941 during World War II, HMAS Sydney was involved in a mutually destructive engagement with the German auxiliary cruiser Kormoran. The Sydney was lost with all hands (645 in all). Most of the German crew from the Kormoran survived. I have seen some of the lifeboats the German crew used when rescued off the coast near Carnarvon.
The wrecks of both ships were lost until 2008: HMAS Sydney was found on 17 March, five days after her adversary.
The purpose of today’s post is to appreciate the concept of the memorial dedicated to HMAS Sydney through the pictures we took during our visit to Geraldton back in November 2020:
Memorials are important because they remind us not only of who was lost regardless of whether friend or foe, but the futility and inevitably, of war. It also reminds us of the tough decisions leaders need to make when committing to a course of action without a guaranteed outcome. Australia has a war or Anzac memorial in every town throughout its length and breadth for this very reason. Anzac stands for Australian and New Zealand Army Corps.
Some of the wars Anzacs have fought in have been the major conflicts in modern times: WW1, WW2, Korea, Vietnam and of course those wars since then we now watch live on TV.
It would seem, for us, there is unfortunately a “grey war” being fought right now with a certain aggressor. We have taken a key stance on a number of issues and it hasn’t been well received. Diplomacy appears to be off the table at this point in time, but interestingly enough may come back onto the table once someone realises they have underestimated the capabilities we have.
If you want to understand what is at the very heart of an Australian, the RSLWA puts it best: Anzac is that single word so powerful in the Australian vocabulary that it can bring a tear to the eye, a lump in the throat and a feeling of pride. A word that brings to mind those other words so uniquely Australian that had their origin in the trenches of Gallipoli in 1915 – Cobber, Digger, Fair Dinkum, True Blue, Mate.
As the Sydney memorial says: “The Rest is Silence.” War is a price too high to pay.
Have you ever thought about what it means to just be there and lead?
I spent the recent weekend in lockdown due to a little COVID outbreak. During this time, a colleague of mine was having an extremely difficult time in the district they manage outside the lockdown zone. Although people in these communities had left the lockdown region and returned home before it was put into place, the State Government backdated the time it took effect due to contact tracing unveiling the movements of those with the virus.
A key issue was whether to cancel a key event or not in the district concerned, as many community members were in the lockdown zone at the backdated time and in the hotspot areas. Another corresponding issue was that staff had been to the exposure sites and would see the key administration office closed. I was asked advice on these matters continuously throughout the 72 hours. Not that I have a problem with that, because it is part of what I do.
When leaders struggle, and they do, others have to step up to the plate and become leaders themselves. How do you do that I hear you ask?
It’s simple really. Just be there and listen. Most times that is what a person needs, regardless of who you are. Just listen. And if you are asked for advice, then give it. Remember though, do it in a constructive manner.
Being there can mean a range of things of course: in person, over the phone, video-conferencing, emailing and even texting.
In my case, I couldn’t be there in person, but I was on the end of the phone, and responding to texts and emails during that whole time. I had to give some very tough advice: cancel the community event, close the office until further notice and move key meetings back. Each one of these decisions, despite COVID, invites a level of criticism that is unwarranted. Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. A responsible leader knows this: the safety of all is paramount regardless of what others say. It was a stressful time. And it’s not over, but hopefully all is well.
You can be a leader by just being there, Your presence provides reassurance, remember that!
Some thoughts on leadership and three ways to give it a spin!
Blood Sweat & Tears
I was reading through the comments on MDL yesterday regarding a current Kdrama – Oh! Master. There was one comment that jumped out at me regarding the piece of music played on guitar by one of my favourite supporting actors (Kim Chang Wan) during episode 9: Trois Gymnopedies by Erik Satie.
I had to respond to the comment, because Trois Gymnopedies was adapted and arranged by Dick Halligan as “Variations on a Theme by Erik Satie (1st and 2nd Movements)” which featured on the 1970 Grammy Award winning album of the year: Blood Sweat & Tears (By Blood Sweat & Tears and not to be confused with the group BTS 🤣). I commented that this is a fantastic version and worth listening to. I then received a fabulous comment back: “My favourite commentator from Longest Day in Chang’an!” Which, by the way, if you haven’t seen this show yet, give it a whirl. The detail and accuracy is breathtaking. You will find it on Amazon Prime.
Blood Sweat & Tears as an album had a number of big hits including:
- Spinning Wheel (Have you ever watched the Sesame Street version?);
- You Made Me So Very Happy (A great Brenda Holloway song I like to play on the guitar);
- And When I Die (My funeral theme song).
A song to also listen out for is: God Bless the Child.
The album is listed in the 1001 Albums You Need to Listen to Before You Die (No.135). I still have my parent’s original vinyl copy and I just had to pull it out and give it a spin on the turntable.
Blood Sweat & Tears were not only master musicians, but great leaders in the music industry and introduced the world to a whole new type of music: jazz/rock.
Variations on a Theme
So, Variations on a Theme by Erik Satie (1st and 2nd Movements) did get me thinking about a few things yesterday. I mentioned in a post recently that leadership comes in all shapes and sizes and I might add, at any age. Despite all the wonderful academic study, reading and advice out there as well as practical training and development on the job we can do regarding leadership, it doesn’t become a reality until you give it a spin. So, what does giving it a spin mean?
Giving leadership a spin means:
- Understanding that being a leader is all about adaptation. In other words, what version do you need to be today, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year? Although you may use the same tools or methods over and over again while being a leader, not every organisation, place or situation requires the same approach. Often, you need to modify the leadership grab bag to suit what you find;
- Figuring out what works for you. Imitating another leader is very flattering for them, but is that who you really are? Being authentic is the name of the game (in fact it has been for 30 years, but whose counting?). Leaders are flawed. Great leaders know this. In some ways, leadership is like marketing. You need to test your brand, bit by bit and see what works favourably with others. You don’t have to be outgoing and extroverted. Many leaders are happily introverted.
- Putting the breaks on/Taking the breaks off. If there is concern around you regarding a particular course of action. Stop. Assess what is going on. Use your sounding boards. If your conclusion is that the course of action has to stop, then stop it and count the cost. Once accounted for, move on. However, if the breaks need to come off, then full steam ahead. Take everyone with you: keep everyone informed, promote collaboration, and don’t forget to support and develop your people long the way.
Grab Bag of Tricks
So what’s in my leadership grab bag of tricks? A whole range of things including: Albrecht’s Triangle (Karl Albrecht), The Learning Organisation (Peter Senge, Arie De Guis), Teams (Bruce Tuckman, Jon Katzenbach), Chaos Management (Tom Peters), just about anything by Peter Drucker, Graham Kenny, Alan Bandt, and George Aveling. Then there are those excellent blogs such as MiddleMe 😊
Is there a leadership style you like to use?
For Your Listening Pleasure
“Variations on a Theme by Erik Satie (1st and 2nd Movements)” by Blood, Sweat & Tears
Just letting you know that where I am, my family and I are once again in a lockdown, this time for three days from midnight tonight. Our previous lockdown was three months ago. I had almost finished a couple of posts to make up for my tardiness of late, but they might need to wait for a bit longer.
This is the Anzac Day long weekend for us. So, many are heading away for the weekend, but can only do so now up until midnight tonight. It’s back on with masks from 6pm and staying at home, with many now conducting a driveway Dawn Service on 25 April 2021 instead of attending major services.
We have 9 full hotels in Perth that are dedicated to Aussies and other visitors returning to Western Australia from overseas and other places. However, it seems the hotels are a source of an outbreak, yet again. This time there has been community transmission.
We have been lucky previously, while watching much of the world struggle to deal with the pandemic. We have been able to do what we need to do because of good controls in place. Which is why we haven’t had to concern ourselves too much with a vaccination program that is way behind where it should be.
Hopefully, contact tracing will deliver a good result at the end of the three day lockdown and is not extended. We have become quite adept at the sudden lockdown and coping with it. For now, my mum is isolated at her home and Linda’s mum who was due to fly back into Perth from our state’s north after visiting Linda’s sister, husband and our niece, may need to stay where she is for the time being.
See you on the other side 😊